I read a wonderful article a couple of weeks ago by Richard and Linda Eyer. I have heard them speak and enjoyed it so when I say something written by them I was happy to read it. I don't remember the name of the article I'll tell you about it.
A lot of people look at babies, and think of them as a lump of clay that can be molded and shaped. And while that is true, to a point, we need to remember that our children came from heaven. We lived in heaven and grew under the direction of our Father in Heaven before coming here to earth. We had the chance to develop our personalities before coming here to experience Earth life.
I have 4 boys and they are so very different. Why would that be. They came from the same DNA. They are all raised together, and the same rules are given to each boy, and yet, they are so different!!! You can tell from babies, and sometimes even before that, while they are still in the womb what kind of personality they will have.
I can guide them and help them develop their talents and teach them to use their agency, but as far as them being a lump of clay.... not so much!